Farnham based child & family therapy.

When experiencing anxiety, as a parent or a child, it can feel like things will never change. Like being stuck in a tunnel with no way out... But I’m here to tell you: Other options are available.
I offer a wide range of ways to help families find light at the end of that tunnel.

Chinese proverb: No family can hang out the sign “Nothing The Matter Here”

How I Can Help

Carolyn Baynes. Compassionate, solution-focused support for your family.

In sessions with me you will come to understand what your triggers are and using Cognitive Behavioural approaches with or without Hypnotherapy we can together use the extraordinary power of the mind to bring about changes to help you deal with life’s challenges more skilfully. Together we will create the right blend for your family, whatever you’re experiencing.

Through my work as a primary school teacher, my therapeutic qualifications and over 30 years of personal mindfulness practice, I create a space of compassion and calm to heal the toughest of situations. So, whether you’re a parent nearing breaking point, a child who’s fallen out of the school system, or anyone in between, we will work together to make progress from our very first session. Parenting in today’s world is one of the toughest jobs any of us can do. I am here to offer a way through.

To offer hope.

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About Carolyn

I am a Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist and Mindfulness Meditation teacher.

Having worked in primary education for 30 years as a music teacher I also have a lot of experience of working with children and families. What I love about Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy (CBH) is the compassionate way it can very quickly help people resolve knotty ongoing problems, sometimes issues that have been troubling for years. Having studied Mindfulness since a teen I have found CBH works very well with the long-term benefits that come from having a daily mindfulness meditation practice. If you are finding parts of you keep tripping you up please get in touch. As the incomparable Brené Brown says “sometimes the bravest thing you can do is just show up”.

About Carolyn

My Offerings

Group sessions for parents to learn from and support each other

Group sessions for parents to learn from and support each other

One to one sessions: for you, or your child

One to one sessions: for you, or your child

Group sessions for children so that they can learn from each other and know they are not alone

Group sessions for children so that they can learn from each other and know they are not alone

Couple sessions: For you and your partner

Couple sessions: For you and your partner

My areas of expertise

Group parent sessions

When we are struggling with a situation where our child is struggling with life we can feel isolated and highly anxious. When we learn that other families are experiencing very similar things two things can change:
We stop blaming our selves
We start having self-compassion
Blame is one of the things that the brain does when we are pushed into our triggered “Fight Flight Freeze” zones. This is the Red Zone where our normal thinking compassionate problem-solving part is off-line.
In the groups we will learn some therapeutic mindfulness skills to help move us out of the Red Zone and back into the Green Zone where we can respond with curiosity, compassion and confidence to the challenges that we are facing.

Once out of the Red Zone we start to cultivate more self-compassion. This is vital for supporting our nervous system to stay in the Green Zone where we can be creative and curious about the problems that life has thrown up. When we are in the Green Zone we aren’t blaming ourselves or others. We aren’t ruminating about the past or terrified about the future. We are able to take care of ourselves and those around us from a calm connected place that supports everyone to come into their Green Zones too.

Couples

Couples

When parents are encountering the stress of a child who is experiencing additional needs often their relationship will become under pressure too. For example; one parent might experience the Fight/Flight/Freeze/Appease sympathetic nervous system in a way that leads to shouting (fight) while another might appease. Both are responding from the need to handle the fear and worry of the situation. When parents start to attend to this in themselves and each other they can help each other notice when they are starting to get dysregulated and give each other support in coming back to the Green Zone.

Mindfulness

Mindfulness

Mindfulness courses are the best way to support our nervous systems to come back to the Green Zone. You will learn wonderful tools such as mindfulness of the body, mindfulness of the breath and mindfulness of the thoughts that ricochet around the mind sometimes. Being present and aware can support our skilful interactions with our partners and families and coming to a mindfulness course is the best way to learn these simple practises.

Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy

Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy

CBH is a practical solutions-focused therapy which seeks to understand the Thoughts, Feelings and Behaviour that might arise in certain triggering situations. In the imaginal state of hypnosis where we are able to access the more creative right brain thinking, we can powerfully explore different beliefs, different feeling states and different behaviours. The freedom that comes from realising “Other Options are AVAILABLE” leads to more creative, compassionate and connected ways of responding to the challenges of family life.

Pricing Plans

I offer both online therapy sessions and face-to-face sessions in my Farnham based practice.

Therapeutic Mindfulness

Therapeutic Mindfulness

  • £67 One off

6 week Therapeutic Mindfulness course £67 (best preparation if considering therapy)

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One to one therapy

One to one therapy

  • £67 per session

One to one therapy £67 a session

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Couples therapy

Couples therapy

  • £67 per session

Couples therapy £67 a session per couple

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What my clients say

5/5

Having suffered with anxiety for a while I finally decided to seek help and I truly found that with Carolyn! She immediately made me feel safe and secure and it was easy to open up to her. The advise and techniques she gave me I will carry forward and continue to use in many areas of my life both now and in the future!

5/5

Wonderful! I benefitted hugely from this course and it's had a positive impact on my life in a short amount of time. The session format of sharing > introducing the topic > practise > sharing our experiences of the practice, worked really well and facilitated communication and sharing in the group.

5/5

I was quite uncertain what to expect with the hypnosis sessions with Carolyn, but she put me quickly at ease. Her voice is so calming. She explored carefully with me what I wanted help with and checked that she had really understood before we went into hypnosis. I do feel like something has shifted, I am more willing to explore situations I would have avoided before, with curiosity.

5/5

I found Carolyn to be a supportive and experienced tutor. I found all of the sessions interesting and helpful. Carolyn has a soothing manner and came across as an authentic person, not afraid to share her life experiences. The course has made me want to find out more. The what's app group is very useful and the recordings.

5/5

Carolyn really stands out for her insight and ability to build trust and create a completely safe and non-judgemental space. Because she is so expressive, gentle and compassionate, I found that I was able to open up and trust far more quickly than I have done with previous therapists and thus go deeper into issues that I have been able to address only more superficially in the past. Moreover, the sessions have helped me build more trust in myself and my own ability to deal with life’s challenges, as well as transform my harsh inner dialogue into something gradually kinder and gentler.

5/5

I would just say to anyone with a problem or issue that they need to find help with: Just go to see Carolyn! My words can not do Carolyn justice.

5/5

Carolyn has a gentle and insightful way of communicating, and, in every session, she was able to meet me exactly where I was at that day and communicate with me in order to fully understand where I needed to be. She has always been fully attuned to my needs and totally adaptable in terms of the content of the sessions and techniques used and has helped me truly listen to myself so I could gain insight into how we should proceed. For example, when my nervous system had quite an extreme post-hypnosis reaction, subsequent sessions focused on calming and soothing my system; and she not only helped me make sense of what had happened, but also gave me tools and techniques that have been instrumental in finding calm at other points in my life.

5/5

Carolyn communicates in a clear and direct way and, at the end of each session, encouraged me to gain further insights to reflect on in the week between sessions, helping me work towards my therapy goals in an attainable way. She is extremely reassuring and compassionate.

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