IFS Therapy in Farnham and Online

What if the parts of you that are causing difficulties are actually trying to help?

Perhaps there is a part of you that worries constantly.

A part that is very hard on yourself.

A part that keeps you busy because slowing down feels difficult.

A part that feels overwhelmed, exhausted or stuck.

Or perhaps there are parts of you carrying grief, trauma or experiences that have never quite found a way to heal.

You don’t have to get rid of these parts.

Internal Family Systems (IFS) offers a gentle and compassionate way of getting to know the different parts of ourselves, understanding what they are trying to do for us, and helping them to let go of burdens they may have been carrying for a very long time.

All your parts are welcome here

In IFS, we don’t see anxiety, anger, self-criticism, procrastination or other difficult experiences as things that are wrong with us.

Instead, we become curious.

What is this part worried might happen?

What is it trying to protect me from?

What does it need?

There is usually a very good reason why our parts do what they do. When they feel heard rather than judged, something can begin to change.

There can be more space inside.

More choice.

More ease.

And underneath all these different parts, IFS recognises a calm, compassionate and curious Self – a part of us that is already there, even when it can sometimes feel hard to find.

How I work

My background in music education has given me a deep capacity for attuned listening – listening not only to the words people speak, but also to what may be asking to be heard underneath them.

Hypnotherapy has taught me to accompany people into their inner landscapes with curiosity and creativity. More than 30 years of mindfulness practice has deepened my awareness of the body and of what is alive in the moment.

Together, these experiences shape the way I work as an IFS therapist.

I offer a warm, calm and non-judgemental space where all parts of you are welcome.

What might bring you to therapy?

You may be struggling with:

• anxiety or overwhelm
• an inner critic or low self-worth
• grief or loss
• trauma or difficult past experiences
• relationship difficulties
• parenting challenges
• emotional regulation
• intrusive thoughts or behaviours you don’t understand
• feeling stuck in patterns you can’t seem to change
• exhaustion or a sense of having too much to hold

You don’t need to have a diagnosis or even know exactly what is wrong.

We can start with whatever is troubling you right now.

You don’t need to know anything about IFS

Perhaps one part of you desperately wants to change while another part seems determined to keep things exactly as they are.

Rather than fighting with these different parts, we can gently get curious about them.

As you begin to understand your inner system, you may discover that the things you have been fighting against are often parts that have been working very hard to protect you.

And when those parts feel heard and understood, they may no longer need to work quite so hard.

Healing is possible

I don’t believe that we are broken or need fixing.

I believe that even the parts of us that cause us the most difficulty have usually developed for good reasons.

With compassion, curiosity and a little space, we can begin to relate to ourselves differently.

My hope is that, over time, you will experience more freedom to choose how you respond to life, rather than feeling driven by old patterns.

You may discover that qualities such as calm, confidence, courage, compassion, curiosity, clarity, connection and creativity are not things you need to acquire.

They are qualities that are already within you.

Is IFS right for you?

You don’t have to know whether IFS is the right therapy for you before getting in touch.

Choosing a therapist is about finding someone you feel comfortable with and who you sense can understand what you are going through.

I warmly invite you to contact me for an initial conversation. There is no pressure or obligation. We can simply talk about what is bringing you to therapy and see whether we might be a good fit.

IFS therapy in Farnham and online

36 Tilford Road, Farnham, GU9 8DL

Call or text: 07946 153054

Email: info@carolynbaynes.co.uk

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Call or text today: 07946 153054

Carolyn Baynes.  Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy.

My background as a Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist led me to training in Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy.  This gentle,  non-pathologising therapy invites us to get curious about the parts of us that might be holding a lot of anxiety, or stress and to respond to that part with compassion and curiosity.  All parts are WELCOME!  even the ones that might be causing problems in your life.  Maybe you are experiencing overwhelming feelings, intrusive thoughts or chronic illness or perhaps you find yourself engaged in behaviours that you don’t understand and find self sabotaging.  Whatever is alive in you is welcome.  Using the wisdom of your system we will get to know and befriend all the different ways your parts are trying to protect you and keep you safe.

Through my work as a primary school teacher, my therapeutic qualifications and over 30 years of personal mindfulness practice, I create a space of compassion and calm to heal the toughest of situations.